Sunday, November 7, 2010
The danger of a single story - Chimamanda Adichie
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Kuala Lumpur and my Indianization
Before I’ll elaborate a bit on the second part of the statement, I’ll quickly share my perception and experience in Malaysia. So on Friday morning 2am, a Spanish couple, a Mexican guey, a Brasilian gaucho, a French Monsieur and a Swiss Meitschi started their trip to Kuala Lumpur. We went to visit some mosques, the Petronas towers, some markets, Chinatown, some hindu temple and a historical city 2 hours away called Malaka. It was n amazing experience because KL is a very clean, organised, well-structured, well developed and extraordinary cosmopolitain city. Actually it felt as if we hardly got to know any real “malaysian” culture. Because Malaysia is a Muslim country, unfortunately many local sights and restaurants were closed due to Eid festival. I don’t know if the experience had been different at another point of time. Oh ya, by the way, it is also a shopping paradise. J A bit expensive, compared to India, but great and easy shopping places. The group of people was great, we had great fun and surely made the best of this weekend!
The "modern" transportation system of Malaka :)
Fish Therapy: little fish eat dead skin cells from your feet, absolutely uncomfortable feeling but very amusing...
Friday, September 3, 2010
My visit to Switzerland !
However, I took a 1 month break in Switzerland to get a new visa and - most importantly - to visit my near and dear ones back home. That was an amazingly relaxing, energizing and just really really great break from the challenging India experience. I got picked up by my mom, sister, grandmother, aunt my friend Sandra and Fabian at the airport, got a little surprise party with many friends on evening of my arrival, went on a 1 week vacation with Fabian to Ticino (Italian part of Switzerland), visited my Grandmother in Austria, had some great nights out with my sister, enjoyed spending time at home with my mom, visited some more dear friends and family, partied during the traditional Spitzer's BEACH'N'BBQ in our house, went to various concerts. In a nutshell, i had lots of plans, lots of fun, a great time... and way to little time for all of it!
But now, I am back in Chennai and back on the adventure to explore this country, it's customs, the business culture and to learn a lot from it for my future. I have set some new goals and focus on how to deal with India, TCS and myself. For example in situations which trigger a lot of frustration. Or about the way I want to learn more about this country. Let's see what this second episode of Incredible India has in store for me.
One last thing, my blog posts have become quite rare in the last months, I plan to change this again. If you enjoy reading my blog, I would appreciate if you left your comment from time to time, no matter how short, unimportant or meaningful it might be or not. It has been giving me a lot of motivation to write, to know that people are actually reading my entries. Please keep it up! J Thanks a lot!
So now, let's see what will happen with athese good resolutions... J
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
A Business Analyst in Chennai - major updates !
Oy, oy, oy... that's what happens if your internet doesn't work for a couple of weeks, your sister comes to visit you, you get shifted to a new location and you decide to extend your stay in India... You totally ignore your blog. :)
So this was the short version of it. For whoever is interested in some more details, here comes the longer version of the two latter points:
After many moments of frustration, fights to get a definitive answer, following up on relevant and irrelevant people, TCS transferred me with 1 week's notice to Chennai (earlier Madras) in the state of Tamil Nadu, in South India. As part of the Janus Program I am in, I got assigned a new role and responsibility: I am now a Business Analyst for the Technology Team. Who would have thought that I would work in the IT team? :)
My task is threefold: 1. I need to understand the customer's requirements if they want some IT application to be developed by my team. I understand it, put it on paper and then coordinate between customer and the developers to make it happen. Why me in that position? Because I have a non-technical background and am able to understand and communicate with the customers on a more general level than the technical people. On Friday, I had my first customer meeting with an internal customer within TCS and one little challenge became quite obvious: I have absolutely NO idea about IT (my near and dear ones can attest that) and my customers knew more than me... and at the end of the day I'm still working in an IT company and EVERYONE has an idea about IT! :) Ya, that was fun. I think they had a good time too... The other parts of my task consist in analysing a set of IT applications/tools we have and finding some gaps to make them more user friendly. Again, the target is to make it fool proof for non-technical guys in order to increase their usage... so I fit the role perfectly. The last part of my role is kind of a marketing campaign for the same applications. Again same factor helps: if I can understand and see the benefit of using this... everyone else should also get it. :)
This role is very interesting for me because I am getting exposed to a totally different aspect of work: I am in customer contact, get to use my analytical skills and can focus on my communication skills as well. Seems perfect to me and so far I am enjoying it. Also my new boss is somehow much... let's say... he actually communicates with me, gives me some rough guidelines and ideas about what I should be doing and gives feedback. In two weeks I already feel much more comfortable here than in 10 months in my earlier role.
And Chennai... oh my god Chennai! It has bars, clubs, actual restaurants you can just chill out, it has the sea and a nice beach, many places to see. It’s an amazing contrast to Baroda. But it is hot, humid and dirty here! Honestly, how can such a large population live in such a place? I'm dying if I'm not in a room with AC. It's around 40-45°C hot, plus around 80% humidity which makes it a huge sauna of 5 million sweaty people, smelly streets and smog as much as you can imagine. It's not really recommendable in the summer season I can assure you. But it has a beach and places to go, so I’m happy !!! :)
Oh yeah, and another important update is that I decided to extend my stay in India. In July my 1-year traineeship is ending and I have accepted an employment offer with TCS. This means that I will come back to Switzerland in July for 1 month, enjoy my family, my love and my friends, pure air, comfortable life, good food, nice landscapes and of course Spitzer’s BEACH’N’BBQ on July 24th !!! After that I’ll come back to Chennai, continue in my role for some time and then possibly take over a third assignment as part of the Janus Program which is ending by the beginning of next year.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Arranged Marriage – Love Marriage
North Indian wedding ceremony
I recently read a book of a successful contemporary Indian author called Chetan Bhagat. His books usually talk about the story of individuals in India which face some problem with an aspect of Indian society: education system, arranged marriage, etc. In the book “2 States” a couple from different origin and cast are in love and want to get married which is very difficult in India. The synopsis of the book says the following “Love marriages around the world are simple: Boy loves girl. Girl loves boy. They get married. In India, there are a few more steps: Boy loves Girl. Girl loves Boy. Girl's family has to love boy. Boy's family has to love girl. Girl's Family has to love Boy's Family. Boy's family has to love girl's family. Girl and Boy still love each other. They get married.”
Indian Bride: rich make up, beautiful dress and a lot of jewelry
Let me give you a little background to regular marriages in India. First of all it is important to know that Indians usually stay with their parents until marriage if they live in the same city as their family. So except if you study or work in another city you would not live alone or with friends and surely not with your partner. Consequently, before a couple gets married, they don’t live together, they supposedly don’t have sex and they don’t hang out the way we do (staying out late at night etc.). This is the way it happens mostly. However, in big metropolitan cities this is slowly changing, living relationships are coming up etc. But seen overall, these cases are still a very small minority. So what happens when a couple gets married is that the girl moves to the house of the family of the guy. She will live there with his family either until the parents die or stay to live with another son. Living there she’ll be included into the family as a full member and learning the way of doing things according to the boys family. There, another crucial factor comes into the play: the cast/community. Basically the society is split into 4 main groups, the Varnas: 1. Brahmins : clergy and teachers wielding religious authority. 2. Kshatriyas : warriors, nobility, and administrators, wielding political power. 3. Vaishyas : merchants and farmers or cattle-herders with economic prosperity and 4. Shudras: servants or unfree peasants. Within every varna there are hundreds of casts. The cast system is not only applicable to the Hindu religion only but is also lived by Christian and Muslim Indians. India is a very much value driven society and according to its nature, every cast has very different values which are lived and preserved with rigour.
South indian wedding ceremony
So, in order to get back to our primary topic, the marriage, let me ask a simple question: Who would you trust most to keep up your family’s tradition? Who would you want to include into the everyday life of your family? Who would you want your daughter to spend her life with? Of course, someone who has similar thinking and values than you have. Someone from the same background. Someone from the same origin. In a nutshell, someone from the same cast. Consequently, arranged marriages don’t have to have anything to do with “family politics” as we might be tempted to believe according to western thinking. I don’t say that one should exclude this reason, which is of course valid for many cases mostly in rural areas. But I want to underline that for the parents it is also strongly linked with the assurance to find someone for your child who shares the same values and who can care for your child the way you would do.
So how do you find someone from the same cast? I can’t generalise on this but what I have seen it is mostly one primary reason: Internet Matching Sites. Yes, of course there are also family friendships, etc, but what I have most commonly observed was that the family looks for a suitable partner on a marriage website. It’s he same principle like our dating sites, just that it is particularly for wedding and the profile includes things like cast, origin, complexion (fair or tanned skin), profession of parents and siblings. Check it out yourself on www.matrimonialsindia.com, for example. It’s quite entertaining. J So the whole family looks for a future partner, not only the individual him/herself. The opinion of the parents is very important, as they “know” how to select the best matching partner.
Foto shooting at the wedding reception
In case someone wants to get married to someone he/she fell in love with and who is not from the same cast, often a drama begins. First because the authority of the parents is put into question, second because they’ll have to live with a girl with different traditions or give their daughter away to a family with different traditions and thirdly because the community will point at the family for not having gone the good way. There must be even more reasons to this, but it seems like not getting into arranged marriage is somehow like getting off the track of being a good son/daughter.
The dowry which the girl's family gifts the groom's family. Often displayed at the reception function.
In a case of love marriage of course the scenarios differ a lot, as some families are more liberal than others. But on the bottom line it is still surprising for most of the people when they hear that a couple of very different background manages to get married. Sometimes you also hear of the term “Arranged cum Love” which is basically a love marriage but which has the buy-in of the families so that it seems as if it was almost arranged.
There is another aspect of this whole arranged married thing. In India you should be married at a certain age. The older you get, the less chances you have to find a good partner. There “must be something wrong with you” if you are over age. Even though maybe you just continued with your education or were in a challenging job or whatever. The first impression says that there’s something fishy about you. So girls should be married at the age of about 27 latest and guys maybe at 29. Unimaginable in Europe, you get married when you found the right partner. But what if the right partner will be taken already or doesn’t want you just because you’re a bit older? Arranged marriage is a social structure to avoid this scenario, it ensures you to find a suitable person in time because the whole family will be concerned about your good future and will help you. And since values and origin are predominant in Indian households, the’ll be able to help you to find that person because they share the same. I don’t say that love is excluded from this… there has to be some spark between the individuals even in arranged marriage, but there is no time to test it the way we do it in Europe.
Wedding couple
This is how it works: family decides its time, they look for a partner, find one which seems to fit, get in contact with the family (or possibly the person directly), they check if things fit, show interest, stay in contact for some time and arrange a get together of the two… during 15-30 minutes the interest has to be confirmed or you decide that it wasn’t the one (which is ,as I understand, rather rare since you have checked the family and its values through), so you confirm the interest, the parents fix a date for engagement together with some astrologer (around 1-3 months later) and a date for wedding is set (maybe 4-6months later), they get married, the girl moves to the groom’s family the day after the wedding… and that’s it. It’s a very quick thing. After 4 months your life took a turn of 180°. One important fact to be considered in order not to create any misconceptions: The individual is involved in most of the steps, depending if he/she already wants to get married or not. But in any case the final decision of saying yes is taken by the couple. Indirectly the parents of course have a large influence, because their opinion is highly valued but the one saying yes to the choice of the family at the meeting is the individual him/herself.
Dressing up for an engagement